Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others? So many people do this; I know I have done that in the past. If we care to admit it, we’ve all compared ourselves with someone else at some time or another.

The truth is that comparison kills our spirit and destroys our soul – it doesn’t do us any good whatsoever. We end up frantically trying to chase somebody else’s life; rather than follow our own unique path.

Take social media for instance. We get drawn into absorbing other people’s lifestyles and comparing ourselves with everything we see. From body image and relationships to holiday destinations and clothing – we’re always affirming to ourselves that our life ‘isn’t good enough’, so we need to strive for more to enable us reach what others have reached.

I’m here to let you know that those people you’re comparing yourself to have signed up for something different than you within their life. It’s not necessarily that you’re doing something wrong; that you’re not achieving your goals; or that you’re not on the right path.

The fact is we’re all very different, we all have our own special gifts and talents. When we look at soul purpose of what we’re here for, you may find that one person has amazing relationships while another person is still working through their relationship issues.

You really should cut yourself a bit of slack and look at what is going right in your life. Start looking inwards because whilst you’re looking outwards and comparing yourself with other people, you’ll never feel satisfied and happy. Instead, you’ll find it very difficult to live presently in the moment because too much of your time is spent continually pushing, chasing, and fighting.

Take it a bit easy on yourself – give yourself time to reflect on what your true values are and rediscover yourself for who you are.

You could be chasing what somebody else has and this pursuit may not be aligned with your values. But because you’re looking at the image of success painted by others, you may then start to think that you need to “step up your game” or do something extra in order to attain that imaginary vision of success. In reality, your own success might mean something entirely different than that image you’re looking at.

I urge you today to take a look at your life, look inwardly at yourself and start to accept who YOU truly are. The moment you do that, everything seems magical!!

Start to take your foot off the gas a little bit. You’ll still reach your goals, and you’ll still do all the things that you want to do. The only difference is that this time you get to do them on your own terms – not by following what someone else is doing.

At the end of the day, your life is about what you want and desire; not somebody else’s agenda.

From today, realise that you don’t need to compare yourself to anybody. If you must compare, then compare yourself only with the person you were yesterday – and continue working to become a better version of yourself. This way, you’ll constantly keep improving yourself on your own terms.

When next you want to undertake a task or project, gently ask yourself: “Is this consistent with who I am?” and see what answer comes up for you. If the answer is Yes, then go ahead and continue forward. However, if the answer is No, then leave it behind. You don’t have to do something just because it’s working for somebody else.

You are unique.

You have your own special gifts and talents.

You were never meant to live someone else’s life.

Accept who you are, love who you are. If loving who you are right now seems like a stretch, then at least learn to accept who you are and forgive yourself… forgiving yourself for comparing yourself to others.